it's not just about "positive thinking"

According to the CURE (Cancer Updates, Research & Education) Magazine as we begin to tell others about our diagnosis, we may feel pressure to maintain a positive attitude, which can be especially difficult when we are scared, anxious or not feeling well.

Experts agree that adopting a "positive at all costs" approach can add a huge burden. No compelling evidence exists that emotional outlook affects survival, yet people unaffected by cancer often expect and encourage those with the disease to exhibit a positive approach despite how we are really feeling.

People's reactions to cancer differ greatly. Just remember that it's your and your family's experience and there is no need to feel you have to please others by the way you cope.